Coping with Loss

Mikael Wagner
6 min readJul 16, 2020

Most of us have all experienced the loss of something that’s very dear and precious to us and eventually we all figure out a way to work through it and survive. There are many types of losses that can have a major impact on our lives. Immediately our minds may take us to the death of a loved one, but there are losses that can affect each of us very differently. Any situation, such as losing a job that we loved or even a bracelet or earring that had a special meaning could be a temporary loss too.

In the past week, two people were removed from my life. It never seems to matter how ill a person is or was, it still can be a shock to one’s system. When I worked for the American Heart Association in San Francisco, many, many moons ago I became close to my boss who was hard on me and also wonderful to me and taught me a lot about my role as the Communications Director. I haven’t worked there in what seems like 100 years, but we always enjoyed lunch meetings over the years with one other colleague that also worked there. Every time we got together it was non-stop laughter, talking and eating of good food. For many years, my old boss had kidney problems and received treatment. He even tried to receive a transplant, but it never stopped the fun that the three of us had together. My friend in crime was Kelly who taught me the meaning of true friendship. As our old boss kept getting sicker, he made a point of not letting us see any pain at all. Our last meeting was probably a struggle but there was more laughter than ever before and of course, good food. He recently passed away due to complications from a kidney transplant. It felt like I had been hit over the head with a brick to hear the news. I had to remind myself that it wasn’t about me and that he was probably at peace. I just wanted to see him again so that I could laugh a lot more at his sense of humour and of course for the three of us to eat more delicious Chinese food that we all loved.

The same week I found out that one of my angels without wings now has wings. Prior to leaving San Francisco for Australia, my car was smashed 3 or 4 different times while it was parked and I was devastated each time I would come out to see my little car banged up. Each time it felt like a personal attack although I know that it was only a distraction from the work that I needed to get done to relocate. My angel and his son own an Auto…

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Mikael Wagner

Mikael Wagner is a communications project manager with focus on health promotion, public relations , marketing and focus group facilitation.