Loss of Loved Ones

  1. Shock. Feelings of shock are unavoidable in almost every situation, even when feeling or knowing that we had time to prepare for the loss of a loved one. Often there is a sense of numbness or a detachment from our true feelings.
  2. Denial. Often, we may experience denial after a bereavement, knowing something has happened but it doesn’t feel real.
  3. Anger. It’s normal to feel anger in times of loss, but often people try to keep this stage of grief hidden. This is when we must surround ourselves with true friends and others that we trust who may have experienced a similar loss in the past. Don’t be surprised if the slightest incident pushes your button, causing you to explode. Acknowledge the emotion, try not to repeat it, and apologize for your explosive behaviour if needed.
  4. Bargaining. The bargaining stage is about making promises to yourself or a higher being, asking the universe for a chance to put things right. Often, we feel that we didn’t do enough or could have done more for our loved ones. A bereaved person may seek reason where there is none and may feel guilty about how they behaved or feel in some way to blame themselves. Often, there is always a ‘What If’.
  5. Depression. Is a ball of emotions that is a part of the grieving process. These emotions can often lead to feelings of depression, isolation, anxiety, and a feeling of dread. Most people are unsure how to ask for help from others or even how to verbalize it so that it makes sense.
  6. Acceptance & Hope. We all crave contact, connection, and support, and at some stage, we want to engage with friends and family again. Acceptance is about realising you can’t change the circumstances, but that you can gain some control over how you respond.
  7. Processing the Grief. There is no right or wrong way to process our grief. Unfortunately, there is no quick fix or magic potion that you can drink that will help us to move on with our lives. It simply takes time, and every individual is different in the path they create to process their grief. There is no timeline for grieving. The key ingredient is to be patient and loving with yourself.



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Mikael Wagner

Mikael Wagner


Mikael Wagner is a communications project manager with focus on health promotion, public relations , marketing and focus group facilitation.